Washington State Domestic
Violence Hotline
Ending domestic violence through education, advocacy 
and referral to local programs and resources throughout Washington State.
You can make a difference in the life of someone who is the victim of domestic violence or being abused.  Your support and concern can help them recognize the abuse that is happening, find safety, and live a life free of violence and fear.

Many people know someone who is or has been a victim of domestic violence, and want to help but are not sure what to do.  Here are some ways you can be supportive:

LISTEN

Let your friend or family member talk about their experience.  It is important for them to be heard without being judged, rejected or betrayed.  Reassure them that help in available for them, from you and others, and that they are not alone.

BELIEVE

Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence. Domestic violence survivors and perpetrators come from every social group.   It can be very difficult for your friend or family member to talk about what is happening in their relationship, and you can help them by reassuring them that you believe them and support them.

ASSURE THE VICTIM THEY ARE NOT TO BLAME

Let your friend or family member know that they deserve a healthy, non-violent relationship, and that you are concerned for their safety.  They do not deserve to be hurt or injured, and they didn't cause the violence.

SUPPORT

Ask how you can help. Encourage them to see that they still have choices and support them in making choices they feel will increase their safety.  Do not criticize them if they make decisions that are different from what you feel or that you might choose.

BE THERE

Let the person being abused know that you support them, and are available to listen and help them when they need it.  Reassure them that they are not alone, and that they do not deserve to be hurt.

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